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Why? This is passive aggressive. Am I taking crazy pills? What's the problem with just politely saying, "Can you please not interrupt?" or "Let me finish my po

Why? This is passive aggressive. Am I taking crazy pills? What's the problem with just politely saying, "Can you please not interrupt?" or "Let me finish my point please."

cbayram 7y ago
This. Imo, this passive aggressively skirting around the issue is just giving one some petty satisfaction. Chances are likely the the interrupter isn’t aware. Tell the person not to interrupt bluntly if that’s your gripe.
- cljs-js-eval 7y ago
  Repeat interrupters have the mental capacity to figure this out. This is coddling people who don't deserve it.
Tade0 7y ago
What's the problem with just politely saying, "Can you please not interrupt?" I'm assuming this option has already been exhausted and didn't have any effect. I've worked with people who prefer to apologise all the time instead of changing their behaviour. When you bring that up they... apologise and move on.
- Cthulhu_ 7y ago
  Do a God of War on them: "Don't be sorry, be better". Apologising comes quite naturally for a lot of people, because apologising is easier than changing unwanted behaviour. I've become aware of that recently because of reasons, and I think it's all right to not just drop it after someone apologises. It's all right to not accept an apology if the underlying behaviour isn't changed.
- solipsism 7y ago
  If a problem continues to be a problem after having some polite conversations about it, then it's time to take the conversation to managers. It's then the managers' role to find a solution. If it keeps being a problem after that (only in an extreme minority of cases would this be true), then yes, I'd transfer or look for a different job. But engaging in a war of talking over each other is just stupid and immature. I have kids, so I guess I prefer the workplace to consist of adults acting like adults.
jtms 7y ago
Are you sure this tactic isn't just aggressive aggressive? Not letting someone steam roll you doesn't exactly seem passive to me.
jacobolus 7y ago
It’s neither passive nor aggressive. It is actively defensive.

Why? This is passive aggressive. Am I taking crazy pills? What's the problem with just politely saying, "Can you please not interrupt?" or "Let me finish my point please."

cbayram 7y ago

This. Imo, this passive aggressively skirting around the issue is just giving one some petty satisfaction. Chances are likely the the interrupter isn’t aware. Tell the person not to interrupt bluntly if that’s your gripe.

cljs-js-eval 7y ago
Repeat interrupters have the mental capacity to figure this out. This is coddling people who don't deserve it.

Tade0 7y ago

What's the problem with just politely saying, "Can you please not interrupt?" I'm assuming this option has already been exhausted and didn't have any effect. I've worked with people who prefer to apologise all the time instead of changing their behaviour. When you bring that up they... apologise and move on.

Cthulhu_ 7y ago
Do a God of War on them: "Don't be sorry, be better". Apologising comes quite naturally for a lot of people, because apologising is easier than changing unwanted behaviour. I've become aware of that recently because of reasons, and I think it's all right to not just drop it after someone apologises. It's all right to not accept an apology if the underlying behaviour isn't changed.
solipsism 7y ago
If a problem continues to be a problem after having some polite conversations about it, then it's time to take the conversation to managers. It's then the managers' role to find a solution. If it keeps being a problem after that (only in an extreme minority of cases would this be true), then yes, I'd transfer or look for a different job. But engaging in a war of talking over each other is just stupid and immature. I have kids, so I guess I prefer the workplace to consist of adults acting like adults.

jtms 7y ago

Are you sure this tactic isn't just aggressive aggressive? Not letting someone steam roll you doesn't exactly seem passive to me.

jacobolus 7y ago

It’s neither passive nor aggressive. It is actively defensive.