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Are you married? Do you have kids? Do you have a dog? Do you have hobbies that require you to be away from computers? If you don’t answer yes to one of my ques

by wil421 7y ago

Are you married? Do you have kids? Do you have a dog? Do you have hobbies that require you to be away from computers? If you don’t answer yes to one of my questions I suggest you try one or more. I’ve gone through lots of hobbies outside my house (preferably outdoors) over the years including running, working out, walking my dog, and now kayaking. If your able to get your work done you should swap the YouTube time for someone else outside work.

nostrademons 7y ago
Speaking as someone who is now married with a kid who worked a whole lot when I was younger, I'd advise the opposite for the OP. Work as much as you can, and ideally get your employer (or customers) to pay you as much as possible for that work. Save that money, and invest it well. Because you won't be able to do that when you have kids. The period from 0-5 years old is just brutal on all of time, attention, and finances. Having a financial cushion is pretty critical if, for example, you get hit with $50K in hospital bills while also needing to figure out daycare and baby supplies and your wife is spending 6-8 hours/day nursing and you're both sleeping 3-4 hours/night. Many new parent problems can be solved with money, and most of the rest are a lot easier if you're not worried how to get the money.
- robin_reala 7y ago
  Does the US system not seem crazy to the people who are stuck inside it? I mean, I guess this is a low-effort comment etc, but I’m still staggered that pulling massive overtime in advance, and $50k for medical bills is seen as a potential part of having a kid.
  - nostrademons 7y ago
    Yes, yes it does. But not something I could do anything about, other than voting for single-payer if it ever came up for a vote, which it won't.
    - Moru 7y ago
      It always feel like grinding in salt in open wounds when discussing US medical and family building. For example when we had our daughter 10 years ago, we had more than 300 days (can't remember exact) to share between us of paid time off work. All medical treatment and dentist is absolutely free up to 20-ish, as are schools. Child care is about 60 eur per month depending on salary of both parents. 70 eur is about max.
      - whatshisface 7y ago
        In the long run everyone will live in a society like that, not because America will suddenly become child-friendly, but because any country that massively discourages childcare will drop to zero population.
        nostrademons 7y ago
        Depends whether you think the world will end in a bang or a whimper - whether we end up going to war and blowing everybody up, or stagnation will lead to a gentle dying-off of countries that make it difficult to reproduce.
        blub 7y ago
        It seems to me that the US is importing people from other countries en masse, so that's not likely to be a problem, especially if said people had lower standards of living and can cope with lacking child care through other means, like large families.
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by wil421 7y ago

nostrademons 7y ago

Speaking as someone who is now married with a kid who worked a whole lot when I was younger, I'd advise the opposite for the OP. Work as much as you can, and ideally get your employer (or customers) to pay you as much as possible for that work. Save that money, and invest it well. Because you won't be able to do that when you have kids. The period from 0-5 years old is just brutal on all of time, attention, and finances. Having a financial cushion is pretty critical if, for example, you get hit with $50K in hospital bills while also needing to figure out daycare and baby supplies and your wife is spending 6-8 hours/day nursing and you're both sleeping 3-4 hours/night. Many new parent problems can be solved with money, and most of the rest are a lot easier if you're not worried how to get the money.

robin_reala 7y ago
Does the US system not seem crazy to the people who are stuck inside it? I mean, I guess this is a low-effort comment etc, but I’m still staggered that pulling massive overtime in advance, and $50k for medical bills is seen as a potential part of having a kid.
- nostrademons 7y ago
  Yes, yes it does. But not something I could do anything about, other than voting for single-payer if it ever came up for a vote, which it won't.
  - Moru 7y ago
    It always feel like grinding in salt in open wounds when discussing US medical and family building. For example when we had our daughter 10 years ago, we had more than 300 days (can't remember exact) to share between us of paid time off work. All medical treatment and dentist is absolutely free up to 20-ish, as are schools. Child care is about 60 eur per month depending on salary of both parents. 70 eur is about max.
    - whatshisface 7y ago
      In the long run everyone will live in a society like that, not because America will suddenly become child-friendly, but because any country that massively discourages childcare will drop to zero population.
      - nostrademons 7y ago
        Depends whether you think the world will end in a bang or a whimper - whether we end up going to war and blowing everybody up, or stagnation will lead to a gentle dying-off of countries that make it difficult to reproduce.
      - blub 7y ago
        It seems to me that the US is importing people from other countries en masse, so that's not likely to be a problem, especially if said people had lower standards of living and can cope with lacking child care through other means, like large families.
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