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Three of these methods are effectively, "My life is probably better than theirs anyway," and two are, "It wasn't a fair fight anyway." This might work on a sur
by aikinai 7y ago
Three of these methods are effectively, "My life is probably better than theirs anyway," and two are, "It wasn't a fair fight anyway."
This might work on a surface level, but you're just plastering over the problem, not rising above it.
- sverige 7y agoNot OP, but I thought that response was very good. Rising above the problem first requires an accurate assessment of what the problem really is. 'Seething' over the success of others is an emotional problem, and it is likely that the root cause is fear that someone else is getting more (of whatever) than I am. If that's true, then examining what it is that you think someone else is getting is worthwhile, as is examining what you actually already have. Comparisons are appropriate to make sure your expectations are calibrated to something more realistic than feelings.
- sterkekoffie 7y agoI think you're missing that there are options besides "their life is better than mine" and "my life is better than theirs."