Consider 'someone' to be one and the same as yourself. And then you can celebrate 'your' successes, commiserate failures, lament failings, while freeing the ot

Consider 'someone' to be one and the same as yourself. And then you can celebrate 'your' successes, commiserate failures, lament failings, while freeing the other you to improve. More difficult if 'they're' arrogant and sneering perhaps, but that's a only a challenge, to be faced head-on.