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It's nice to hear I'm not the only one as a kid whose reflex was to get suspicious of/thought it was lazy when/ people would quickly decide "you're smart". It s
by pizza 7y ago
It's nice to hear I'm not the only one as a kid whose reflex was to get suspicious of/thought it was lazy when/ people would quickly decide "you're smart". It seemed to me just like a way to score cheap points. It also made me feel worse about not understanding things easily.. people were telling me I was smart, after all! :P
My sister, on the other hand, gets annoyed at my perspective - she finds it tiresome when people can't take the compliment. There's wisdom to both ways, I guess.
- striking 7y agoYou can be nice about a well-meaning but ultimately misguided complement without taking it seriously.
- pizza 7y agoAgreed, though it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that, haha.
- alexanderdmitri 7y agoSomeone once pointed out to me I had a tendency to momentarily scowl when complimented and then pretend I hadn't heard it. Made sense because compliments made me feel weird, even though I freely gave them out. Since then I've trained myself to smile, make eye-contact and say "Thank you, I accept your compliment with confidence," before returning to the matter at hand.