I think there's a third dimension: how much you've given up. So my thoughts are like #4, but with the undertone of "who am I kidding, of course they don't care

I think there's a third dimension: how much you've given up. So my thoughts are like #4, but with the undertone of "who am I kidding, of course they don't care, what can I do?". This is perhaps the most dangerous response.