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> That's not meant to be as preachy as it maybe sounds. It does, probably because it's so asymmetric. Now, I guess it is expected that the one's own kids will
by balfirevic 7y ago
> That's not meant to be as preachy as it maybe sounds.
It does, probably because it's so asymmetric. Now, I guess it is expected that the one's own kids will be more important than friends. But this "if friendship is important" thing has to go both ways to at least some extent.
- Loughla 7y ago>thing has to go both ways to at least some extent. That's correct, the problem, in my experience, is that people expect everything to be the same as it was before friend A had a kid. It's called growth and development, and it's healthy for many people. So expecting them to hang out until 2 am and play video games and drink like you used to is probably not realistic. Maybe, depending on the person. My point was that if the friendship is important, remember that children aren't a barrier to YOUR needs. That is a human, the care and development of which your friend is personally responsible for. Understand that you may have to hang out with them at a park while their kid plays, rather than in your living room drinking beers. Does that make sense? I feel like I do a terrible job of explaining myself.