As someone who doesn’t practice any religion but grew up around them I’m confused about the role church seems to play for many folks. Instead of being about spi

As someone who doesn’t practice any religion but grew up around them I’m confused about the role church seems to play for many folks. Instead of being about spiritual advancement it seems like a lot of the people are just interested in a very accepting social club with some fantasy elements. I saw very little of people sitting around talking about eg humility and how to mortify their desires rather than hanging out or reading an epistle and then interpreting it with (frankly) self-help ideology