I was trying to constructively and civilly offer feedback. You did not reply in the same spirit. Your comment was rude; many people would ignore it. In the pa

I was trying to constructively and civilly offer feedback. You did not reply in the same spirit. Your comment was rude; many people would ignore it. In the past (and occasionally even recently) I’ve been rude, arrogant, or not valued people properly. It didn’t get me very far. This is the reason I’m writing despite your tone —- because I want to help you see more broadly about what is important. If you disagree, fine, but open your mind to the possibility that you should revisit this topic later with more experience and perspective. Defensive, aggressive, and ad-hominem attacks are not useful and simply make you look worse. Being right is not sufficient. Life and work are bigger than that. If not me (someone you don’t know), I sincerely hope you ask several people you trust for feedback on this topic. I think you might be surprised by what you can learn. Your comment also makes unwarranted and illogical assumptions. For example, I never said that having norms and guidelines is a bad thing. I only said that there will inevitably be areas that are not covered in advance. Most importantly, you have a choice in how you act. Aspire to be both correct and kind. This will get you farther. Good luck.