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This attitude that "to be offended you have to allow it" is ridiculous. You can't simply turn your emotions on and off unless you are a sociopath.
by xgulfie 7y ago
This attitude that "to be offended you have to allow it" is ridiculous.
You can't simply turn your emotions on and off unless you are a sociopath.
- HeroOfAges 7y agoHow old are you? I'm curious because I thought along those lines when I was a younger man. You are right that we have almost no control over our immediate emotional reactions to something we have just observed. You do control your train of thought about that observation going forward.
- xgulfie 7y agoI'm 29. Yes I agree that you can consciously control what you do long-term in response to something, but you can't just whiff things off entirely. If someone calls me a "fag", it will bother me whether I pretend it does or not. I'll be offended and it will probably play back in my head for a bit. I can try to let it not bother me, but it probably will at least a little. "Words can't hurt me" is a fine personal mantra/goal/ideal but you can't apply it to everybody in every case.
- gnaritas 7y agoOr an adult. Offense is always a choice, adults learn to laugh off this shit rather than be offended by it. You are responsible for your own emotions and how you react to them; it's no one's fault you're offended but your own. Offense is taken, not given.
- xfitm3 7y agoLearning how to deal with emotions is literally what my teenage years were about.