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Why challenge someone's self-selected, battle-won access solutions before you spend time with them understanding their choices?
by the_other 7y ago
Why challenge someone's self-selected, battle-won access solutions before you spend time with them understanding their choices?
- prepend 7y agoFor me the challenge is part of understanding choices. I don’t think of challenge as conflict, but as a way of looking at different possibilities to learn more about why.
- afiori 7y agoThere are many ways to pose a challenge. > I don’t think of challenge as conflict Agree, but I like to think of it as retrofixing your reasoning for the different view: "You tell me A, but I used to believe B because of C, D, etc. Can we investigate whether my reasoning was lacking, those are also in conflict with A, A and B are not actually in conflict, or B has a validity not influenced by A"
- prepend 7y agoI like this symbolic way of putting it. I struggle with communicating that in a way that is non-threatening to people who are sensitive or defensive of their supporting beliefs E,F, etc for why A.
- coldtea 7y agoBecause "self-selected" can be far from optimal -- lots of people self-select solutions and even insist they "work for them" that are not only sub-optimal but even medically or otherwise detrimental for them.