It definitely can be discussed. The key is that you had to temper your assertion that the discussion was only 'somewhat' in good faith. Usually the discussions

It definitely can be discussed. The key is that you had to temper your assertion that the discussion was only 'somewhat' in good faith. Usually the discussions around these things aren't in good faith. Sometimes they're actually in poor faith from BOTH sides. Interpret this as 'people are fallible and bad at discoursing respectfully' rather than 'people don't want to discuss these sensitive topics'