I'm somewhat satirical of course. However: "Here’s a simple test: if someone walks away from another person feeling bad about themselves, they were probably in

I'm somewhat satirical of course. However: "Here’s a simple test: if someone walks away from another person feeling bad about themselves, they were probably interacting with an asshole." I'll tell you that eg as manager there is no way that some of your conversations won't end with the other person feeling somewhat bad about themselves. You have to fire people. You have to explain that some behavior was clearly wrong. Sometimes you need to explain that despite best efforts the person is just simply not developing quickly enough professionally. That hurts, however you put it (you can do it carefully, sure). Hey, you will need to explain assholes that they're doing the wrong thing. Are you sure you can do this without making them feel bad about themselves? Just be very careful with labeling people. It's usually not a great strategy, especially if you use terms like asshole. Try to be emphatic, understanding. Labeling people is one way of being an asshole.