I’ll grant your point that maybe it’s cultural or depends on where you live. I live in the SF Bay Area and it’s clear from the parent post that he lives in Euro

I’ll grant your point that maybe it’s cultural or depends on where you live. I live in the SF Bay Area and it’s clear from the parent post that he lives in Europe or Australia/NZ based on his use of “mum”. Given the author lives in the SF Bay Area I think my point stands though. Among my dozens of friends with children, there’s a couple of friends who don’t spend very much time with their kids and they are universally looked on as the “shitty” dads. One likes to do his sports on the weekends and regularly abandons his children and wife to do that. The other plays video games all the time “to unwind” and his children are basically ignored. The rest of the dads I know feel a lot of pressure trying to be good dads (and husbands) and split child duties. I don’t know many females who would accept it, since they have demanding careers as well. I don’t know very many dads who thinks it’s okay that the mom does most of the child rearing and I’m probably 15-20 years older than the average HN reader. Maybe at lower income levels or lower costs areas it’s more true that women take more of the child rearing duties. In expensive areas like SF Bay Area, most women work except among the very rich, so you will see a complete split of duties most of the time. At least at the same income level as the author in the same area, I don’t believe that women are still considered the primary child rearer. And given the author’s successes and writings, I highly doubt she would have chosen a mate who would assume that she would do most of the child rearing.