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I feel like the author is using one part of her story to excuse other unrelated decisions. Sure, defending a man she believes was improperly convicted and a vic
by notacoward 7y ago
I feel like the author is using one part of her story to excuse other unrelated decisions. Sure, defending a man she believes was improperly convicted and a victim of racism is important. Very important. It seems perfectly reasonable to weigh that responsibility against that she owes to her kids (though I might still make the opposite choice myself). But another student to teach? Another story to write? Nope. Other people can do one, and the other might not need to be done at all. The incremental benefit to anyone but the author herself is minimal, compared to the major incremental benefit of being there for her children. Which brings us to this.
> If I didn’t write and teach and litigate, a part of me would feel empty.
This sounds like the real reason, and it's not a bad one. Self-care is important. It's hard to be a good parent (or spouse BTW) if you're not a healthy person. But that's a different argument from the one about all of one's work being important to others. Some seems to be, and some less so. When a facile reason is given, even if good reasons also exist, it seems like unhealthy rationalization. But then, picking and promoting a most favorable narrative is exactly what trial lawyers do. I guess it's an easy trap to fall into. I just hope she's right that the choice to favor her career really will prove most fulfilling in the longer term.
- simonh 7y agoI don't think it's for us to pre-judge which rationalisations are good ones and which aren't. Some of them seem pretty compelling, but for others such as the student needing help we just don't know enough about the specific circumstances to know. Individually I can agree that yes this task is important enough to give up that event with her children. They might all be reasonable. I think the problem comes when you look at the aggregate. One lawyer can't save every victim of injustice or teach every student. Does she actually need to get into every one of these demanding situations one after the other, with no gap? Even then, maybe the answer is yes if that's what it takes to get ahead in her career to achieve the things she wants to, but that's really the tradeoff not the individual instances.