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Yes kind of, but I do find a lot of people especially smart people do have confidence issues. So that’s actually what A good coach does, give you confidence, I
by xiaolingxiao 7y ago
Yes kind of, but I do find a lot of people especially smart people do have confidence issues. So that’s actually what A good coach does, give you confidence, I had that and want to pass it forward. See I think focus too much on the work itself at the expense of the other persons feelings is not ideal either, so much of the stuff we do have emotional underpinnings so adressing it would be nice, I.e. low confidence.
But maybe I’m overthinking it.
- DoreenMichele 7y agoI think of confidence in terms of statistical confidence. You can give people good feedback on how to determine if this is a good bet without getting all personal and emotional about it. That doesn't mean you can't ever say anything about them. There are situations where a statement like "Yes, but you have x track record of performance." is pertinent objective feedback. What I find problematic is men want to engage me emotionally. They want an emotional connection. They treat me like a vending machine of guaranteed good feelings. And it has nothing to do with helping me accomplish something. It often actively interferes.
- xiaolingxiao 7y agoOh I see I thought confidence as in like self belief. And yeah you bring up an interesting situation. So to summarize all the talk should be work centered right?
- DoreenMichele 7y agoYup. Work/goal oriented as much as possible. Things easily get uncomfortable and confusing otherwise. You can be warmly supportive of their work. It doesn't have to be a cold situation. Just enthuse about their ideas, their proposal, etc rather than about how smart they are, etc.