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I am all for going with your guts, that's how I am built, but I would like to offer a different point of view. "Sucking it up" seems to have a bad connotation
by soneca 7y ago
I am all for going with your guts, that's how I am built, but I would like to offer a different point of view.
"Sucking it up" seems to have a bad connotation from two different, even opposite points of view. Either you think of it as a coward move, to go against your "real" self and individuality to conform to a cubicle in order to receive a lot of money. It is almost like you are bribing yourself, having both accumulated guilty feelings of corrupting your ideals. On the opposite side "sucking it up" is viewed as a dilemma only for whining, entitled people, who believe they are above the routine obligations of life in society just because they are privileged — the usual "snowflake" critique.
I believe that both views are a dangerously superficial translation of a more profound choice that can lead to fulfillment and maturity; either way it goes.
The benefits of staying in your job can be more than money. There is a lot to learn in facing a harsh environment, facing uncomfortable obstacles, and dealing with unwelcoming people. If you endure all of that, you will recognize yourself as a stronger person, more professionally competent, more prepared to live and thrive out of your comfort zone. It will practially results in you having a better chance of achieving more things decades from now. It comes with the risk of not being any of that and, in reality, is just you staying in your comfort zone, not learning, not enduring, just following spoken and unspoken rules.
The benefits of quitting your job are the number of opportunities that open once you are out of a clear career path where you know all the rules. You gain freedom. You will learn about new things, new people, new cultures, new games with completely different rules you will have to learn. It comes with the risk of losing focus so much that you also learn, endure, and achieve nothing.
Which way to go all depends on which path you are most likely to pursue learning and personal growth, and which path you are most likely to fall back to a stable and unsurprising state, where you are the same person every day. Each person, at each moment of their lives, have their own better path. I am usually the one to go free and experiment a lot, quitting corporate environment as soon as I am bored. My wife chose to endure in a very demanding job because she believed in the mission (it was a non-profit) and successfully arrived at the other end of a tough year triumphantly, stronger, mature, and competent. Very happy with her choice.
We both might invert our positions in the future, and that's a good thing for you. If you quit now, you can work hard to go back to your position later. If you decide to stay, you can quit a year from now.
Good luck with your choice!
EDIT: Don't take this advice from a workaholic paradigm. When I say "learn and personal growth", it can be a year reading, relaxing, meeting people, travelling. To each his own... learning come in many forms
- yathern 7y agoThank you so much - I like your view a lot. I'll need to chew on it a bit more. I'm considering just saying "let me work on something interesting please" and seeing how that goes. Can't hurt!