I agree. To get anything but the most superficial understanding of someone's problems is going to take a huge investment in time, that's what therapists get pai

I agree. To get anything but the most superficial understanding of someone's problems is going to take a huge investment in time, that's what therapists get paid to do with varying levels of success. It's a very real cost to actually understand someone. I think it's very difficult to even understand yourself and your own actions, and that's with a lifetime of first hand experiences.