> I know this person. I know how much $$$ they spend on acohol a week. I know how they got fired from their job for not showing up. I know they blew their tax r

> I know this person. I know how much $$$ they spend on acohol a week. I know how they got fired from their job for not showing up. I know they blew their tax return in a week. I'm not a cold hearted person but ... Well, you kind of are. That's basically of the definition of cold-hearted. It's 100% your legal and moral right to not contribute to these fundraisers. You could even argue that the best course of action here is to be cold-hearted, but you should at least own it.