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You could also spend 10 mins like my brother did and just change your name to something you like, maybe even name yourself after a celebrity, rather than the on

You could also spend 10 mins like my brother did and just change your name to something you like, maybe even name yourself after a celebrity, rather than the one assigned to you.

RIMR 7y ago
You shouldn't be forced to change your name just to be treated with dignity.
- devoply 7y ago
  There are many things one is forced to do in life for instance sell most of your time for money so you are treated with dignity. A name is a small price to pay... most of your life spend doing someone else's bidding is something much worse, and yet most people do it.
- allannienhuis 7y ago
  But your name is something you have the ability to change once you're an adult (and even earlier in some cases if you insist on being called by a preferred name or nickname). You don't have the ability to change how someone (everyone?) else reacts to an unusual name.
  - princekolt 7y ago
    Literally the last paragraph: "We can't always go through life-changing things to make other people happy ... and I had to learn that early on."
- sdinsn 7y ago
  You shouldn't be forced to subject yourself to your parent's poor decisions.
theOnliest 7y ago
Depending on where you live, changing your name can be much more of a hassle than this. My wife did it recently, and the whole process took several months and cost nearly $1000 all told. It involved filling out a bunch of paperwork, taking ads out in two legal newspapers, and a court date.
- reustle 7y ago
  Could you elaborate on the ads? Those seem unnecessary.
  - detaro 7y ago
    Some jurisdictions have rules that you need to "publicly announce" important events, and newspaper ads are still considered "the" way of doing so.
    - theOnliest 7y ago
      Yep; this was in Pennsylvania, which is apparently one of the more onerous states. The stated purpose is so that you can't change your name in order to (for example) escape debt. So the way to do this is to pay to put an announcement in a legal periodical. She had to do it in two separate places: one was mandated (The Legal Intelligencer, which sounds like something out of Harry Potter), and she had the choice of a few others, of which she picked the cheapest one. The ads themselves didn't cost $1000, but the whole process (including changing the name on her passport, etc.) came close to that.

You could also spend 10 mins like my brother did and just change your name to something you like, maybe even name yourself after a celebrity, rather than the one assigned to you.

RIMR 7y ago

You shouldn't be forced to change your name just to be treated with dignity.

devoply 7y ago
There are many things one is forced to do in life for instance sell most of your time for money so you are treated with dignity. A name is a small price to pay... most of your life spend doing someone else's bidding is something much worse, and yet most people do it.
allannienhuis 7y ago
But your name is something you have the ability to change once you're an adult (and even earlier in some cases if you insist on being called by a preferred name or nickname). You don't have the ability to change how someone (everyone?) else reacts to an unusual name.
- princekolt 7y ago
  Literally the last paragraph: "We can't always go through life-changing things to make other people happy ... and I had to learn that early on."
sdinsn 7y ago
You shouldn't be forced to subject yourself to your parent's poor decisions.

theOnliest 7y ago

Depending on where you live, changing your name can be much more of a hassle than this. My wife did it recently, and the whole process took several months and cost nearly $1000 all told. It involved filling out a bunch of paperwork, taking ads out in two legal newspapers, and a court date.

reustle 7y ago
Could you elaborate on the ads? Those seem unnecessary.
- detaro 7y ago
  Some jurisdictions have rules that you need to "publicly announce" important events, and newspaper ads are still considered "the" way of doing so.
  - theOnliest 7y ago
    Yep; this was in Pennsylvania, which is apparently one of the more onerous states. The stated purpose is so that you can't change your name in order to (for example) escape debt. So the way to do this is to pay to put an announcement in a legal periodical. She had to do it in two separate places: one was mandated (The Legal Intelligencer, which sounds like something out of Harry Potter), and she had the choice of a few others, of which she picked the cheapest one. The ads themselves didn't cost $1000, but the whole process (including changing the name on her passport, etc.) came close to that.