You don't even need to declare yourself as antinatalism, simply answering the simple question question of "do you have kids" with "my wife and I decided against

You don't even need to declare yourself as antinatalism, simply answering the simple question question of "do you have kids" with "my wife and I decided against that" seems enough to get most people on the defensive. As if my own life choices not matching theirs is some sort of threat or inherent criticism to their choices.