> but "what can we afford? and what do we want?" In that order! I'd switch the order. Once you decide what you want, then you cut or adjust expectations to fit

> but "what can we afford? and what do we want?" In that order! I'd switch the order. Once you decide what you want, then you cut or adjust expectations to fit your budget. Just make sure to set the budget before making decisions. For example, if you want live music at the reception, you find a musician(s) or band that fit your budget, without simply deciding you can't afford it.