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It is at least ignorant and dismissive to think that. I've met a few people who face social pressures from their family, who number in the dozens, to do things
by bittercynic 7y ago
It is at least ignorant and dismissive to think that.
I've met a few people who face social pressures from their family, who number in the dozens, to do things that appear extremely financially irresponsible from my perspective. If you have to choose between being responsible and not infuriating the 40 most important people in your life, I don't think that would be an easy decision to make. Go against the grain too many times and you risk having the family turn their collective back on you, which might be the best thing financially, but is still a terrifying prospect.
- balfirevic 7y agoI think this just illustrates how different social worlds are for different people. For me, having 40 family members (especially the ones whose opinion you'd care about) just sounds made up. And having family members pressure you into things you don't want sounds like a great opportunity to learn how to tell people to mind their own business. Please note, I'm not judging. I can't even mentally put myself in that situation, so how could I judge? But also, it's hard not to notice that if somebody's 40 family members turn their back on them then their life would just become similar to the lives of mostly everyone I know (i.e. having 0-5 family members that care about you and that you care about).