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"Why don't we start our lives together by blowing obscene amounts of money on a party?" "Great idea!" Is that how the conversation goes? I'm genuinely curious
by radcon 7y ago
"Why don't we start our lives together by blowing obscene amounts of money on a party?"
"Great idea!"
Is that how the conversation goes? I'm genuinely curious...
- leetcrew 7y agoI imagine the conversation begins "well, my parents/friends expect ..."
- tristanperry 7y agoYep: and of course their own expectations (partially fueled by other people's weddings and movies). The priority in this case (for the subset the article is referring to, of course) is always expectations > practicalities like money. "After all, you only get married once"...
- TheOtherHobbes 7y agoThat's excellent grounds not to get married at all - at least not to them. It strongly suggests the other person is more interested in social status signalling through extravagant lifestyle display than in celebrating the partnership for its own sake.
- thomascgalvin 7y agoI don't think there is a conversation. A shocking number of people get married without discussing critical things like finances, or whether they want children, first.
- mooreds 7y agoI had some difficult conversations with my future spouse. It's not fun to think about money or kids or religion or finances when you are in the honeymoon of your early love. But it is so important. We talk all the time about company and team alignment, but being aligned with your spouse matters so much more.
- dfxm12 7y ago"You only get married once, it will be our most special day, so we deserve the best". Whether or not any of these assertions are true is not questioned...
- mrfredward 7y agoI see the word "deserve" constantly in marketing and in people's justifications for the things they buy, and it drives me insane. A transaction is giving something up in exchange for something else. What someone thinks they "deserve" has absolutely no effect on whether a purchase makes your life better or worse.