I agree with all other other replies (so far). What I'll add is: focus on being crystal clear above making the challenge less challenging. I subscribe to the

I agree with all other other replies (so far). What I'll add is: focus on being crystal clear above making the challenge less challenging. I subscribe to the idea that anxiety (and ADHD) is not 'disorder', but rather 'hyper-order'. it's characterized by an intense need, whether necessary or not, to bring order to things, and one of the ways to minimize the problem is to make the challenge 'orderly' before you make it less challenging. The approach might be different for ADHD compared to anxiety, but I think the root desire of being provided with order is similar. I can't speak for the former (at least not with a diagnosis), but I can for the latter: I'd be happy to be faced with a difficult challenge, as long as it's clear what the stakes are. what the pay-off is, as well as the consequence on failure. I'd probably want regular feedback, and a reminder that nothing I do is the end of the world. In the case of ADHD in particular, I suppose I might want regular feedback specifically to find out if I'm going down a path that isn't worth it in the grand scheme of things.