I've heard that as well, that 2 - 3 kids are more trouble than any other number. Some people feel that after the third, you just accept chaos as your life. But

I've heard that as well, that 2 - 3 kids are more trouble than any other number. Some people feel that after the third, you just accept chaos as your life. But I don't think it's strictly a quantity. I think it's a timing issue. Multiple infants and toddlers are a nightmare to manage. One is ok, because you can dedicate all of your resources to it. When you're having your fourth kid, your first is going to be around 3 at the youngest. But typically what I've seen is that the first is closer to 6 to 10 by the time the fourth comes along. At that age, the kid is ready to start taking on some responsibility around the house. Your burden gets lighter to some degree. They're more autonomous, you don't have to worry that they're just going to accidentally kill themselves as much.