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The advice I'd give to my 18 year old self is funnily enough something I knew at the time: Kill yourself now, it's all downhill from here. 52 yrs old now and th
by a0-prw 7y ago
The advice I'd give to my 18 year old self is funnily enough something I knew at the time: Kill yourself now, it's all downhill from here. 52 yrs old now and the slope is getting steeper lol
- lstamour 7y agoI know a number of folks who remarried and found happiness, and even had kids (!) after 50-55. Life isn’t over until you decide. Engage with the world, try new things for a time and see what sticks.
- scarface74 7y agoJust to put some statistics on it. 58% of men over 55 remarry and 41% of women marry/remarry after 50. https://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/13/fashion/13genb.html https://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/13/fashion/13genb.html
- a0-prw 7y agoI have kids who are successful and seem happy. I sincerely regret ever single sacrifice I made to get them there. I wish I could have my life again so I could fuck it up even better :|
- tuesdayrain 7y agoI hope you don't tell them that. Hearing my parents say that would change me forever.
- Bakary 7y ago"I'll tell you an anecdote that played a role in my life. I was about twenty-two and one day I was in a terrible state. We were living in Sibiu, a city in the provinces where I spent my whole youth, and where my father was the priest of the city. That day only my mother and I were home.... All of a sudden I had a fantastic fit of despair, I threw myself on the sofa and said "I can't take it anymore." And my mother said this: "If I had known, I would have had an abortion." That made an extraordinary impression on me. It didn't hurt me, not at all. But later I said, "That was very important. I'm simply an accident. Why take it all so seriously?" Because, in effect, it's all without substance." - Emil Cioran, Writing at Risk: Interviews in Paris With Uncommon Writers
- teknico 7y agoDid anyone force you to have kids? You have your life now: go and fuck it up as much as you want.
- lacampbell 7y agoSucks to be you, not everyone peaks in high school.
- dang 7y agoPersonal attacks will get you banned here. Please don't do this again, regardless of whether you peaked in high school. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- lacampbell 7y agoI'm not going to say nothing while someone advocates suicide. I'm just not that understanding.
- dang 7y agoTo respond to a comment like that with a goading personal attack is a whole new level of unkindness. That breaks the site guidelines badly. If you keep doing that, we're going to have to ban you. I don't want to ban you, so would you mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the spirit of this site more to heart?
- lacampbell 7y agoIf the spirit of the site is "someone advocating suicide and telling a board full of people - many of whom are young - that life is downhill from 18" is perfectly kosher, then I think you do want to ban me, because I find that abhorrent. Sucks that that guys life went badly, boo hoo etc, but the least we can do is prevent his poisonous mindset influence even more people. So yes I can see why you find my comment objectionable. If you did not find his comment even more objectionable, let's call it quits.
- dang 7y agoI don't see the comment as an attempt to influence others. It describes the commenter's experience. We have a site guideline that covers such cases: "Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith." https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- david-gpu 7y agoHave you talked with a therapist?
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- rmtech 7y agolmfao...
- blackflame7000 7y agoThe older you get the less you have to lose. It sounds like you need a midlife re-evaluation of what makes you happy. Go run up some credit card debt and live a little. They won't make you pay when you die.
- a0-prw 7y agoYou devil, you :) I like the way you think, but I can do better than credit card debt ;)
- pjc50 7y agoOne of my pieces of advice I'd like to send back in time would be to prevent someone else killing themselves.
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- boapnuaput 7y agoAlong these lines, I don't have any words for my younger self, but I would probably thrash the hell out of him with my fists until he stopped being such a brat.