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I still remind myself about a week spent at an athletic training camp. Since nobody knew the "real me" I took a risk and introduced myself as the happy, content
by whitepoplar 7y ago
I still remind myself about a week spent at an athletic training camp. Since nobody knew the "real me" I took a risk and introduced myself as the happy, content, talkative, cool person I wanted to be. Much to my shock, people bought it! For that week, I was the person others wanted to talk to and hang out with. It was great, really fantastic, and showed me how the person we "are" is all in our heads. I lapsed back into being quiet, sad, and depressed after that, but it was such an eye-opener.
- agumonkey 7y agoInteresting story (and experiment). I think along our lives we have moments where we can reset our social self (summer holidays far from home) and grow / rewire a lot of our preconceptions. All in all I wouldn't say it's all in our minds, even though we inherit genes and traits from our family but as you saw yourself, it's also a balancing effort with our surroundings. If you're misjudged you will face an uphill battle, if you get a friendly start it will change our you feel, live and create your persona.
- whitepoplar 7y agoYeah, though I think people have an uncanny ability to pick up on how you portray yourself and then reflect that back at you. Even 30 seconds of initial interaction gone poorly is enough to guide the rest of the relationship, maybe even for years.
- agumonkey 7y agoYep, and it's something that is subtle and rarely taught. Having the natural tendancy to ~fight for your status so your position is neutral with respect to others.