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> And that’s fine. There is nothing special about biological parents being the ones to take care of kids. There absolutely is an irreplaceable bond between nat
by malvosenior 7y ago
> And that’s fine. There is nothing special about biological parents being the ones to take care of kids.
There absolutely is an irreplaceable bond between natural parents and their children that can’t be replaced. If you spend time around a lot of kids it’s very easy to notice a happiness difference between those with a stay at home parent and those raised by paid professionals (who are usually taking care of many other children, unless you’re wealthy).
> Indeed, our parents and grandparents spent half as much time with their kids than we are spending today, and their kids (us) turned out fine
I mean, did we? The birth rate is dropping through the floor, marriage rates are down, and studies show women in particular are more unhappy than ever.
As my generation ages into their 40s I see a stark happiness divide between those that focused on their careers vs those that built families (strongly in favor of the latter).
- tptacek 7y agoAccording to NORC at U Chicago, general happiness for women leads that of men, and is within low single digits of its all-time peak. http://www.norc.org/PDFs/GSS%20Reports/GSS_PsyWellBeing15_final_formatted.pdf http://www.norc.org/PDFs/GSS%20Reports/GSS_PsyWellBeing15_fi...
- malvosenior 7y agoMost studies contradict these findings: https://law.yale.edu/system/files/documents/pdf/Intellectual_Life/Stevenson_ParadoxDecliningFemaleHappiness_Dec08.pdf https://law.yale.edu/system/files/documents/pdf/Intellectual...
- tptacek 7y agoIsn't the paper you're citing based on the paper I cited? The General Social Survey is NORC.
- kevinmchugh 7y agoHow do you feel about adoptive parents?
- malvosenior 7y agoI think adoption is great! I don’t think it’s as good as a natural parent child relationship but certainly better than day care.