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Who gives a shit if it -is- self promoting? I was reading a blog post about narcissism. The author’s comment regarding whether one went on a Red Cross trip to
by arkades 7y ago
Who gives a shit if it -is- self promoting?
I was reading a blog post about narcissism. The author’s comment regarding whether one went on a Red Cross trip to Haiti out of good motives or bad matters to what kind of person you are, but sure as hell doesn’t matter to the Haitians.
Ultimately this sort of judgment and outrage isn’t about the famous person - it’s about our self esteem. Because if I can judge you on “what you really are” rather than your actual deeds, then he’s not so great, and my lazy non-Thai-rescuing ass isn’t so bad. This is ego protection by the mediocre, and little more.
- dmix 7y agoTrue, a whole bunch of amazing things have been created in this world in the name of self-benefit. But social grace still matters, at least culturally if not for actual charity outcomes. I also can't think of anyone less likely to be driven by self-promotion in response to some tragedy than already-famous billionaires. But everyone wants there to either be the Disney evil rich-guy villains narratives or thankless superheros.
- rambojazz 7y agoKnowing the motives why someone does something is a useful piece of information. Sure, if I'm dying I'll take everything to have another chance. But if I see someone wanting to help me for no apparent reason, I surely will ask questions like "why" or "is there a catch"?