I think this is a "yes and no" situation. The software engineering community is full of helpful people who want to share their work and generally be kind to ot

I think this is a "yes and no" situation. The software engineering community is full of helpful people who want to share their work and generally be kind to others. It is also full of arrogant assholes who can't fathom nuance in solutions, the importance of social niceties, or the possibility of being wrong sometimes. If you only go to conferences and friendlier forums for discussion, you'll mostly only see the former. If you work around enough startups, high-profile CS programs, or even just spend much time on stack overflow, you will definitely see the latter. This is doubly true if you happen to be female. To me there are two issues with the latter group: the first is that they tend to be more vocal and more memorable, which skews overall perceptions. The second is that the community tolerates these people and even celebrates them way more than it should.