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I wonder how would it be possible to teach young children to not value "being smart" and make that stick as they grown into rebel teenagers, deception is certai
by CyanBird 7y ago
I wonder how would it be possible to teach young children to not value "being smart" and make that stick as they grown into rebel teenagers, deception is certainly not the way to go, as they will obviously notice it over time. Telling them "it doesn't matter" I don't think that's sticky enough, probably just being upfront and saying to them the reasons behind it, why it doesn't matter
- bitexploder 7y agoThey figure it out for themselves. No one has to tell you. It is a very difficult balancing act. I could write a long essay length document on my approach to this. My son is older, age 12, and he knows he is smart now, but, I think about it in concrete terms of how does this matter? He just /IS/ smart. He won't ever be dumb. But if I can't teach him how to work hard and apply his natural gifts and what he has learned what good is being smart? I think kids are really good at figuring it out and using it (intelligence) without a lot of guidance. Of course, we do things and I try to keep them challenged at home, but I also try to show them what hard work is and how to enjoy simple things. In the real world, people care more about what you can do than how smart you are. Of course we love it when smart people do great things, but... it just doesn't matter in practice. I think it is all about focusing on values and emphasizing things (like hard work) over smart.
- jdefr89 7y agoI think "being smart" like anything else, has diminishing return. It should be we teach children that you can be very smart, but without work ethic/motivation/passion to go alone, you may not go half as far as you would imagine.