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I can't help but agree. There is obviously a need for organization if you have so many kids you're basically running a kindergarten, but it sounds like these ki

I can't help but agree. There is obviously a need for organization if you have so many kids you're basically running a kindergarten, but it sounds like these kids grew up in a military school or something. The best thing my parents ever did for me was to give me freedom to grow up on my own.

avinium 7y ago
Is it fair to assume the author is a Mormon? From my limited understanding, large families are the norm for Mormons and I'm guessing there's a lot more structure in that kind of community. By contrast, my father came from a much laxer 5 child family, and was the only one who went to university. I can't imagine how anyone would manage with 12.
- shijie 7y ago
  Member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormon) here. 12 is a lot. Like a lot.
- woodruffw 7y ago
  The author's other article[1] talks about their Mormonism and other subjects of faith. [1]: https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-your-children/ https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-y...
- xvector 7y ago
  The author does mention he is Mormon[1]. > My wife and I are religious and members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints [...] > With no religious upbringing, [children] have no way to measure the goodness of other organizations, as they have no foundation. > They participated in the religious activities: we were the parents, they did not have a choice. [1]: https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-your-children/ https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-y...
mixmastamyk 7y ago
It sounds like they got enough freedom, they just had to learn to take care of themselves as well. What does freedom mean to you?
jraph 7y ago
Wow yeah. It seems that they did a good job of raising obeying children but the writer does not mention whether they taught their children to question their society and to rebel. Which I feel is utterly important. Such a way to raise children does not seem to leave much room to flexibility and creativity. Children should learn to adapt in a moving and not completely defined environment anyway. Also, are they able to cope with someone who sees things as (unspoken) agreements instead of (strict) rules? And I feel if parents can pay for their children's studies, this is an opportunity to take. Life is easy when you can! At the beggining of your life it's difficult to get good money, so you struggle, but at the time your children goes to college, you may have a good income. So instead of paying your studies, you pay for your children's and they will do the same for theirs. Same amounts, a lot easier. Life is not meant to be hard (Granted it works best with fewer children). (Maybe it is not meant at all anyway but this is another question) Anyway, it seems the children are doing well so if it works for them, great (we only have the point of view of the father - why "I" and not "we" in the title by the way?)

avinium 7y ago

Is it fair to assume the author is a Mormon? From my limited understanding, large families are the norm for Mormons and I'm guessing there's a lot more structure in that kind of community. By contrast, my father came from a much laxer 5 child family, and was the only one who went to university. I can't imagine how anyone would manage with 12.

shijie 7y ago
Member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormon) here. 12 is a lot. Like a lot.
woodruffw 7y ago
The author's other article[1] talks about their Mormonism and other subjects of faith. [1]: https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-your-children/ https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-y...
xvector 7y ago
The author does mention he is Mormon[1]. > My wife and I are religious and members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints [...] > With no religious upbringing, [children] have no way to measure the goodness of other organizations, as they have no foundation. > They participated in the religious activities: we were the parents, they did not have a choice. [1]: https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-your-children/ https://qz.com/296701/how-to-keep-your-wealth-from-ruining-y...

mixmastamyk 7y ago

It sounds like they got enough freedom, they just had to learn to take care of themselves as well. What does freedom mean to you?

jraph 7y ago

Wow yeah. It seems that they did a good job of raising obeying children but the writer does not mention whether they taught their children to question their society and to rebel. Which I feel is utterly important. Such a way to raise children does not seem to leave much room to flexibility and creativity. Children should learn to adapt in a moving and not completely defined environment anyway. Also, are they able to cope with someone who sees things as (unspoken) agreements instead of (strict) rules? And I feel if parents can pay for their children's studies, this is an opportunity to take. Life is easy when you can! At the beggining of your life it's difficult to get good money, so you struggle, but at the time your children goes to college, you may have a good income. So instead of paying your studies, you pay for your children's and they will do the same for theirs. Same amounts, a lot easier. Life is not meant to be hard (Granted it works best with fewer children). (Maybe it is not meant at all anyway but this is another question) Anyway, it seems the children are doing well so if it works for them, great (we only have the point of view of the father - why "I" and not "we" in the title by the way?)