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If your child is watching gore vids on the internet then the solution is to sit down and have a very serious talk to the kid -- not to rely on a technical solut

by ahje 7y ago

If your child is watching gore vids on the internet then the solution is to sit down and have a very serious talk to the kid -- not to rely on a technical solution to prevent it.

jolmg 7y ago
Sure, but how do you find out if a child is seeing such things without monitoring? Let them get comfortable enough that they don't feel like they have to hide that kind of thing from you?
- ahje 7y ago
  The parent comment I replied to was about blocking, not monitoring. Monitoring is a whole other matter.
  - jolmg 7y ago
    The parent comment I replied to was about avoiding monitoring in favor of education. I replied asking if education was considered sufficient on its own or if blocking was also desirable in addition to educating. You replied that instead of blocking one should just talk to them if they're seeing stuff they're not supposed to. Unless you rely on catching them by accident, that seems to reintroduce the need for monitoring that we were avoiding, so I replied asking how we're supposed to know such things without it. Monitoring is related. The whole subthread is about avoiding it.
    - ahje 7y ago
      Sorry, I misunderstood you then. For what it's worth, I couldn't even monitor all my teenager's Internet traffic even if I wanted to. We have had the "there's a lot of wierd stuff on the Net" talk, and there has been other kids at school who apparently MMS'ed some pretty bad stuff to the other kids, which resulted in a very productive discussion about peer pressure and the importance of being responsible. I believe that approach is better than trying to control everything. Otherwise you'll simply end up with a bunch of kids in a small bubble that bursts when they move out, and then the World will simply come crashing down on them no matter what. It's better to prepare them for what's to come.
- zarify 7y ago
  Monitoring doesn't have to be tech. It could be something as simple as computer use happens in family areas during formative years. Also if kids are comfortable talking to you about what they do because parents are understanding rather than judgemental ("how dare you watch X" etc) then they're more likely to tell you if they do come across something like that accidentally. (My kids are <2 and <0 right now, but I teach teenagers about technology for a living and kids self-report dodgy stuff all the time.)
prepend 7y ago
There’s a lot of stuff that I saw that I wish I hadn’t. For young kids I think blocking is the only way to potentially help as by the time you sit down with them about gore vids, they’ve already seen them. It’s pretty much impossible to fully block whatever you consider negative. But you might be able to reduce it or make it less accessible.

by ahje 7y ago

If your child is watching gore vids on the internet then the solution is to sit down and have a very serious talk to the kid -- not to rely on a technical solution to prevent it.

jolmg 7y ago

Sure, but how do you find out if a child is seeing such things without monitoring? Let them get comfortable enough that they don't feel like they have to hide that kind of thing from you?

ahje 7y ago
The parent comment I replied to was about blocking, not monitoring. Monitoring is a whole other matter.
- jolmg 7y ago
  The parent comment I replied to was about avoiding monitoring in favor of education. I replied asking if education was considered sufficient on its own or if blocking was also desirable in addition to educating. You replied that instead of blocking one should just talk to them if they're seeing stuff they're not supposed to. Unless you rely on catching them by accident, that seems to reintroduce the need for monitoring that we were avoiding, so I replied asking how we're supposed to know such things without it. Monitoring is related. The whole subthread is about avoiding it.
  - ahje 7y ago
    Sorry, I misunderstood you then. For what it's worth, I couldn't even monitor all my teenager's Internet traffic even if I wanted to. We have had the "there's a lot of wierd stuff on the Net" talk, and there has been other kids at school who apparently MMS'ed some pretty bad stuff to the other kids, which resulted in a very productive discussion about peer pressure and the importance of being responsible. I believe that approach is better than trying to control everything. Otherwise you'll simply end up with a bunch of kids in a small bubble that bursts when they move out, and then the World will simply come crashing down on them no matter what. It's better to prepare them for what's to come.
zarify 7y ago
Monitoring doesn't have to be tech. It could be something as simple as computer use happens in family areas during formative years. Also if kids are comfortable talking to you about what they do because parents are understanding rather than judgemental ("how dare you watch X" etc) then they're more likely to tell you if they do come across something like that accidentally. (My kids are <2 and <0 right now, but I teach teenagers about technology for a living and kids self-report dodgy stuff all the time.)

prepend 7y ago

There’s a lot of stuff that I saw that I wish I hadn’t. For young kids I think blocking is the only way to potentially help as by the time you sit down with them about gore vids, they’ve already seen them. It’s pretty much impossible to fully block whatever you consider negative. But you might be able to reduce it or make it less accessible.