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> If adults don't understand the technology and kids don't consent, isn't that exactly a scenario where we should at least protect the children, given that its

> If adults don't understand the technology and kids don't consent, isn't that exactly a scenario where we should at least protect the children, given that its widely accepted in most countries that children can't actually enter commercial relationships on their own? Or more accurately kids can't consent. This is the argument I've used for my kids against family members who had a hard time understanding not plastering them on social media. Basically we told everyone in the family that our kids images, names, DoB, whereabouts and anything else about them should not be posted in any form or fashion. I'd then go on to position it from my kids point of view: what if they don't consent later in life and those posts somehow impact them negatively at that time? Do you [family member] want to take on that you were the only one to choose for them? I am their custodian and doing my due diligence to keep their digital footprint to a minimum until they have the capacity to make those choices on their own behalf. I feel like there are lawsuits all around this that will be cropping up in the next decade which may shy people away from the unfiltered social media perspective many run with today.

xwdv 7y ago
OTOH, if you are plastering yourself all over social media and other kids parents are doing the same with their children, not including your child in your posts can feel extremely alienating to them, and make them feel like you do not care about them or want to be seen with them. And when they grow up, they may resent you for not even putting up even one picture of them with you. The moral of that story is to beware: kids may not always share your values and by doing what you think is best you may be doing harm. They may not understand consent, but they will understand what it looks like when a parent doesn’t give a shit about them.
- windexh8er 7y ago
  If you talk to your kids they are surprisingly intelligent and can comprehend this. I do my best to bridge the line of alienation and acceptable use of technology which leverages other forms of inclusion and sharing that doesn't require Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. And to your point, kids don't always share values of the parent which is why they don't have final say. Your implication that a parent that does more to protect their child "doesn't give a shit about them" clearly showcases your agenda and/or unfounded assertion.

xwdv 7y ago

OTOH, if you are plastering yourself all over social media and other kids parents are doing the same with their children, not including your child in your posts can feel extremely alienating to them, and make them feel like you do not care about them or want to be seen with them. And when they grow up, they may resent you for not even putting up even one picture of them with you. The moral of that story is to beware: kids may not always share your values and by doing what you think is best you may be doing harm. They may not understand consent, but they will understand what it looks like when a parent doesn’t give a shit about them.

windexh8er 7y ago
If you talk to your kids they are surprisingly intelligent and can comprehend this. I do my best to bridge the line of alienation and acceptable use of technology which leverages other forms of inclusion and sharing that doesn't require Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. And to your point, kids don't always share values of the parent which is why they don't have final say. Your implication that a parent that does more to protect their child "doesn't give a shit about them" clearly showcases your agenda and/or unfounded assertion.