I hope you don’t take this the wrong way, but if you are bored in a one on one conversational setting, and you have followed the advice of the top comments in t

I hope you don’t take this the wrong way, but if you are bored in a one on one conversational setting, and you have followed the advice of the top comments in this thread, then it likely boils down to one of you not wanting to talk to the other - not usually that someone is boring. What’s boring is that no one is genuinely attempting to get to know the other better by listening to what they are saying and following up with questions whose answers might, or might lead to, something that does interest them. Either that, or the person being bored may have such narrow interests or lack of belief in the value others hold that they are unable or unwilling to find common ground. So I’d say - share your interests in an off-hand way during small talk, and attempt to steer the conversation in such a way that your partner(s) get a chance to do the same - and then pounce on common ground when you find it. And if you take responsibility for finding it, you always will - unless you’re not just “coming off” as an asshole.