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more interested question is why do you need small talk at all?
by sAbakumoff 7y ago
more interested question is
why do you need small talk at all?
- derpherpsson 7y agoSome northern Scandinavian people and especially the Finns do without it. I tried having comfortable silences with my coworkers. Some like it, some just go insane. It kind of depends on the person - maybe some people never learn to appreciate the silence.
- chrisseaton 7y agoI've been to conferences in Finland and there's as much smalltalk as there is anywhere else. Going to a conference and everyone just standing there silently would be a waste of everyone's time and money.
- derpherpsson 7y agoOkay. By having done away with it I guess I really meant that they are not doing it pointlessly often, when it could just as well be quiet. Such as at the coffee (fika) break. It might be okay to just be silent. All you are going to talk about is rather obvious in either case.
- Insanity 7y agoFor socializing. Depends a bit on the culture though, but in many that I'm familiar with this is seen as 'normal'.
- sAbakumoff 7y agolet's say that I don't appreciate when a co-worker asks me every Monday "how is your week-end?". First of all - why the f*ck do you care, secondly - mind your own weekend. But "social norms" kinda force me to answer "that was fine thank you" and then keep fingers crossed that he does not start ask about the details which does not happen a lot because people don't really care about anyone but themselves. I honestly don't comprehend why can't we start Monday with casual Hello and then get back to work and enjoy silence. But I am not normal I guess.
- dlphn___xyz 7y agosome people cant deal with silence