Have you considered something like asking for laundry service as a birthday gift? My wife and I have similar spending patterns, but if we had different valuati

Have you considered something like asking for laundry service as a birthday gift? My wife and I have similar spending patterns, but if we had different valuations on something, I would want to be able to talk about it (express my desire), show a willingness to compromise (in exchange of a birthday gift) but in a way that respected her valuation.