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Why is "the decline in sex for young men" even relevant here? Most people who argue that "some men truly don’t know how to conduct themselves appropriately" wou

Why is "the decline in sex for young men" even relevant here? Most people who argue that "some men truly don’t know how to conduct themselves appropriately" would say that 'behaving appropriately' means that professional interactions among strangers should not be unduly sexualized. So why even bring up sex at all, it seems like a red herring here.

Balgair 7y ago
I think they are saying that those categories of men overlap closely. The men that do not know how to interact with women in the workforce are closely overlapped with the men who cannot 'get past 3rd base'. I'm unsure how the modern world is affecting both areas simultaneously though. Perhaps cis-hetero women are just not putting up with things that they used too put up with.
- luckylion 7y ago
  > The men that do not know how to interact with women in the workforce are closely overlapped with the men who cannot 'get past 3rd base'. Given that the major examples are Harvey Weinstein & Co, I believe that would be comically wrong.
  - Balgair 7y ago
    I mean, I didn't say the overlap was 100%. That monster would be obviously outside this.
    - luckylion 7y ago
      I haven't seen any overlap tbh, but maybe that's just because the low profile cases aren't publicized. The ones you hear from are usually aggressive, successful men who don't seem shy or socially awkward at all. They just show little care for others and do whatever they can get away with. That sounds very different from the incel community, and to conflate the too for rhetoric effect doesn't seem right to me.
  - croon 7y ago
    By your example, a rapist technically gets past 3rd base too. But that doesn't in any way reflect on the argument made. Harvey Weinstein is not and was not by any definition a "ladies man". If for example depp or mcconaughey or any other seemingly successful ladies man were the main archetype of the "Weinstein & Co", your point would stand, here it does not. This is not in support of how well these two groups overlap or not, just a critique of your logic.
    - luckylion 7y ago
      > Harvey Weinstein is not and was not by any definition a "ladies man". He wasn't a socially awkward recluse either, that's the point: he's an aggressive, ultra-successful alpha-male. Looks work, power does too. Weinstein didn't have the looks, but he had all that power. It's just a totally different demographic. I'd love to see some hints, because I really didn't get anything even remotely close in the media.

Balgair 7y ago

I think they are saying that those categories of men overlap closely. The men that do not know how to interact with women in the workforce are closely overlapped with the men who cannot 'get past 3rd base'. I'm unsure how the modern world is affecting both areas simultaneously though. Perhaps cis-hetero women are just not putting up with things that they used too put up with.

luckylion 7y ago
> The men that do not know how to interact with women in the workforce are closely overlapped with the men who cannot 'get past 3rd base'. Given that the major examples are Harvey Weinstein & Co, I believe that would be comically wrong.
- Balgair 7y ago
  I mean, I didn't say the overlap was 100%. That monster would be obviously outside this.
  - luckylion 7y ago
    I haven't seen any overlap tbh, but maybe that's just because the low profile cases aren't publicized. The ones you hear from are usually aggressive, successful men who don't seem shy or socially awkward at all. They just show little care for others and do whatever they can get away with. That sounds very different from the incel community, and to conflate the too for rhetoric effect doesn't seem right to me.
- croon 7y ago
  By your example, a rapist technically gets past 3rd base too. But that doesn't in any way reflect on the argument made. Harvey Weinstein is not and was not by any definition a "ladies man". If for example depp or mcconaughey or any other seemingly successful ladies man were the main archetype of the "Weinstein & Co", your point would stand, here it does not. This is not in support of how well these two groups overlap or not, just a critique of your logic.
  - luckylion 7y ago
    > Harvey Weinstein is not and was not by any definition a "ladies man". He wasn't a socially awkward recluse either, that's the point: he's an aggressive, ultra-successful alpha-male. Looks work, power does too. Weinstein didn't have the looks, but he had all that power. It's just a totally different demographic. I'd love to see some hints, because I really didn't get anything even remotely close in the media.