Do something you can be really proud of. I suffered the same lack of confidence you described. It took years, but I became really good at my job by learning a

Do something you can be really proud of. I suffered the same lack of confidence you described. It took years, but I became really good at my job by learning a lot, so I got confident only in my job at first, to the point when I started arguing about technical decisions really heavily and started taking over a huge project. This confidence is slowly transferring to other areas of my life. For example, talking to strangers was a huge burden for me too, but it's not a problem anymore because I can believe now that I'm as much human as they are with the same set of problems as they have. Also meeting with assholes (who talk low about you or ignore you) can be a really big hit for your confidence, but try to mark them as such and don't take it personally. A huge turning point was me when I read this article about what other people expect from me. It really opened my eyes and I could judge myself and my relationships with people more objectively: https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/ https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-y... Also, I very like Bill Murray's philosophy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3_j0BlbUy8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3_j0BlbUy8