Perhaps the problems you're describing are symptoms of an underlying fear of vulnerability, something nearly everyone has at some level. Advice for confidence t

Perhaps the problems you're describing are symptoms of an underlying fear of vulnerability, something nearly everyone has at some level. Advice for confidence tends to go in the direction of "fake it till you make it," and "who gives a shit what other people think," and I think that can help you _portray_ confidence and even start to feel it. But imagine if you started at the other end of the problem, and you were able to "put yourself out there," knowing you may well be wrong, knowing that your colleagues' criticism would hurt your feelings (rather than numbing yourself to it), and being able to do it anyway because rejection will hurt but won't kill you, and because you feel worthy and comfortable in your own skin. Can't say I have all the answers as this is something I'm working on myself (with great reward so far), but it's worth expanding your search to include the vulnerability trail. [Brene Brown](https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability) is a good start.