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Spend time to master something. Genuine confidence comes from a sense of empowerment (not entitlement).

Theodores 7y ago
This. Plus if you get to be really good at something and extremely knowledgeable on a topic you can get to be able to claim nothing about your expertise level. (Dunning–Kruger effect, gone right). The only downside is that people will pigeon hole you, so if you become expert at something people will keep you doing it rather than promote you to something you cannot do (according to them). This can be bad if you are a creative at heart and get pigeon holed as a techie. So maybe master two things in unrelated areas. Get the tech string to your bow but add on another, e.g. knowledge of a period of history or a craft.
eeZah7Ux 7y ago
Not at all. That is false confidence! Tying confidence and self-esteem to abilities or possessions is called dependence.
- boomlinde 7y ago
  It seems only natural to me that the exact opposite is true. What does "confidence" mean, in your view? Assuming a dictionary definition, "the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something", such a feeling or belief rooted in absolutely nothing is just unrealistic. It's still a form of dependence, the only significant difference being that instead of depending on a demonstrable fact, you depend on an unrealistic fantasy. The latter easily breaks down with a simple reality check, unless deeply rooted in religious conviction. Self-confidence without ability is plain arrogance. Even if you truly don't tie your self-confidence to your abilities, chances are that you judge others by different standards. I don't confide in others on the basis of their bare existence as persons, and I try hard to judge myself by the same standards that I judge others. The more important concern is choosing which abilities you should hinge your self-confidence to, and learning to appreciate them and judge them fairly.

This. Plus if you get to be really good at something and extremely knowledgeable on a topic you can get to be able to claim nothing about your expertise level. (Dunning–Kruger effect, gone right). The only downside is that people will pigeon hole you, so if you become expert at something people will keep you doing it rather than promote you to something you cannot do (according to them). This can be bad if you are a creative at heart and get pigeon holed as a techie. So maybe master two things in unrelated areas. Get the tech string to your bow but add on another, e.g. knowledge of a period of history or a craft.

eeZah7Ux 7y ago

Not at all. That is false confidence! Tying confidence and self-esteem to abilities or possessions is called dependence.

boomlinde 7y ago
It seems only natural to me that the exact opposite is true. What does "confidence" mean, in your view? Assuming a dictionary definition, "the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something", such a feeling or belief rooted in absolutely nothing is just unrealistic. It's still a form of dependence, the only significant difference being that instead of depending on a demonstrable fact, you depend on an unrealistic fantasy. The latter easily breaks down with a simple reality check, unless deeply rooted in religious conviction. Self-confidence without ability is plain arrogance. Even if you truly don't tie your self-confidence to your abilities, chances are that you judge others by different standards. I don't confide in others on the basis of their bare existence as persons, and I try hard to judge myself by the same standards that I judge others. The more important concern is choosing which abilities you should hinge your self-confidence to, and learning to appreciate them and judge them fairly.