I also was thinking that one's ability to feel another's emotion--empathize--was the key determinant in success here. I also don't want to make people feel lik

I also was thinking that one's ability to feel another's emotion--empathize--was the key determinant in success here. I also don't want to make people feel like they're necessarily terrible people if they can't. Sorry if that's the way it came across. Thinkint about this: It seems that culturally we are comfortable telling people feel like they're dumb (ie SATs, grades, uni admissions) or unathletic (competitive sports is a big part of growing up)... But we don't say anything about moral character.