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I am sorry for what happened to you. But can you know in advance what having further information would do to your feelings? And there'll always be gaps in that
by skookumchuck 7y ago
I am sorry for what happened to you. But can you know in advance what having further information would do to your feelings? And there'll always be gaps in that information, even in the case the article was about.
For example, when my father died, I was presented with the option of having an autopsy done to find out just what had killed him. I declined, because it wouldn't change anything. He was just as gone, I'd miss him just as much, and I'd still think about him every day.
- berkut 7y agoI think so: it's actually not so much regarding the victim, but the fact that a life was taken via murder (which wouldn't have happened otherwise), and it's possible the guilty party has gotten away with it (and I might even know them) plays on my mind. It's basically the uncertainty in terms of the who, what (although this answer is fairly evident) and why. Who for me is the big one. I suspect if I knew for certain who was responsible, I could at least put it behind me. I accepted the "they're gone" part years ago, but not knowing who did it (for certain) at least in my case is extremely annoying (and is the same with other relatives incidentally).
- TheSpiceIsLife 7y agoI don't believe either of you is presenting a convincing argument that the other is wrong. It seems quite plausible to me that some portion of people will be affected by not-knowing what happened, and some portion of people less so.