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I think "don't take other's advice" is just good advice in general, or at the very least "be skeptical of other's advice". I work in academic science where a lo
by el_cujo 7y ago
I think "don't take other's advice" is just good advice in general, or at the very least "be skeptical of other's advice". I work in academic science where a lot of people of varying career stages are squished together in close proximity, and I encounter many situations where inexperienced and not that successful people are way too willing to shower even less experienced people with advice on how to live/do things. This seems to be the most common with graduate students talking to slightly newer graduate students. It's self-affirming for most people to give instructions and feel like they are being listened to, and I too often see this impulse outweighing the idea of the advice actually being useful.
For me personally, two things that determine if somebody is in a position to give me advice are:
1)Are they enjoying a level of success that I would like to achieve?
2)Is the environment in which they achieved success comparable to my own?
- CPLX 7y agoOther people’s advice is generally useless, mostly because you aren’t them. You’re facing a different set of circumstances while in possession of a different set of resources. Other people’s stories however are almost always useful in some way, though not always in the way they intend.
- aiisjustanif 7y agoDepends on the advice. I'll definitely listen to advice from my wife on how to handle certain social situations because she is pretty good at giving advice to navigate social psychological situations.
- dgzl 7y agoThe best advice I gain from other people is learning from their mistakes.