So very true! I also maintain 10,000+ GitHub starred OSS database (https://github.com/amark/gun https://github.com/amark/gun), and can relate to a lot of these

So very true! I also maintain 10,000+ GitHub starred OSS database (https://github.com/amark/gun https://github.com/amark/gun), and can relate to a lot of these points. Worse than the jerks, though, are the bike-shedders. It is emotionally much easier to confront jerks, even though it is hurtful. But the people who "Why isn't this written in X language?" or "Here's a PR to turn tabs into spaces" are honestly well-intended but naive and short-sighted. Explaining to those people why you have to reject their PR because it provides no additional value and is purely an arbitrary distraction takes quite a bit of time trying to be delicate, but is nearly as much waste of time.