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I also want to know how he manages to do any work with 5 or even 10 kids. I realised I no longer had any spare time anymore once I had my first daughter. Then

by flurdy 7y ago

I also want to know how he manages to do any work with 5 or even 10 kids. I realised I no longer had any spare time anymore once I had my first daughter. Then we had another and I realised I must have had so much spare time with just the one kid... How lots of my family and friends manage time with 3 or more kids I don't know as you are then outnumbered. 5 or more seems impossible. You must either be a drill sergeant super efficient or the opposite, super relaxed and let the kids sort themselves out. Or rich and delegate it to nannies/au-pair etc. I do appreciate now that by having two kids that they mostly spend their time at home playing with each other, as opposed to when we had just the one when we had to always play with them. I guess that scales well with more kids. But I still do feel guilty that I am not always joining in. And have to be more selective of which school performance etc either one of us can attend. I am not sure my conscience could handle missing out on lots of these with more kids by allocating much less of my full time to each kid.

TeMPOraL 7y ago
> I do appreciate now that by having two kids that they mostly spend their time at home playing with each other, as opposed to when we had just the one when we had to always play with them. I guess that scales well with more kids. The traditional way is to delegate age-appropriate amount of caring for the younger children to the older children.
- jason_slack 7y ago
  With 5 kids myself, this is indeed true. Delegation is important and also a "zone defense" became really important. "man to man" was out of the question. But if you are already making 2 school lunches, how much longer is 5 really? You are already making breakfast lunch and dinner each day, how hard is it to add more food really. There is cost involved but making the meal isn't that much harder, at least for us.
croo 7y ago
From zero to one child the change in regular life is astounding. You become a parent and in the process you lost a lot of your free time and lose all spontaneity from your life. From one to two children you will notice that you had some free time left with one but now you really _really_ don't have any more. No more evening movies or hour long coffees with wife. You wonder what childrenless people even do with the ultra metric shitton of time they have as you cannot imagine anymore. You simply don't have enough time for two kids and you have to learn to manage and optimize what you have to do the best you can. From two to three children... nothing really changes anymore! You won't get more responsibilites as you already have them and no less time as you already don't have any :)
- wbl 7y ago
  I got a cinematic education from my dad one movie a week on Saturday night. Children can be involved in adult activities.

by flurdy 7y ago

TeMPOraL 7y ago

> I do appreciate now that by having two kids that they mostly spend their time at home playing with each other, as opposed to when we had just the one when we had to always play with them. I guess that scales well with more kids. The traditional way is to delegate age-appropriate amount of caring for the younger children to the older children.

jason_slack 7y ago
With 5 kids myself, this is indeed true. Delegation is important and also a "zone defense" became really important. "man to man" was out of the question. But if you are already making 2 school lunches, how much longer is 5 really? You are already making breakfast lunch and dinner each day, how hard is it to add more food really. There is cost involved but making the meal isn't that much harder, at least for us.

croo 7y ago

From zero to one child the change in regular life is astounding. You become a parent and in the process you lost a lot of your free time and lose all spontaneity from your life. From one to two children you will notice that you had some free time left with one but now you really _really_ don't have any more. No more evening movies or hour long coffees with wife. You wonder what childrenless people even do with the ultra metric shitton of time they have as you cannot imagine anymore. You simply don't have enough time for two kids and you have to learn to manage and optimize what you have to do the best you can. From two to three children... nothing really changes anymore! You won't get more responsibilites as you already have them and no less time as you already don't have any :)

wbl 7y ago
I got a cinematic education from my dad one movie a week on Saturday night. Children can be involved in adult activities.