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Once I found a really bright employee and I asked him, why don't you talk more and socialize more? He said well once I did exactly that and someone with large f

Once I found a really bright employee and I asked him, why don't you talk more and socialize more? He said well once I did exactly that and someone with large follower count on twitter made mockery of my views since then I keep my personal opinion to myself. Another one told me, that he doesn't really have a lot in common with people around him and that he considers online community where people are exactly interested in what he likes requires lot less mental overhead. Due to social media follower count, some people love to pick out others and insult them on social media only because they happen to have a different opinion, here you don't even need to hold on wrong opinion - holding a different opinion does the job. Before internet/social media, there were very few and expensive ways to get together with people across the geographic boundaries so you always had to please people around you and sometimes get them interested in the things you like, to have fun with them. But this changed with internet, now you can choose some very obscure topic and you'll find other people who are interested in the same thing several clicks away. And your mom is sick at home and can't go to supermarket for shopping? No problem, Amazon home delivery is one click away. Before that, you had to keep a friend who lived close to you and also help him and keep him happy so that he helped you when you need him, like buying some stuff for your mom while she's sick and you are away. Due to technology, there is simply less need of friends etc... And many don't consider it a good ROI over their time to keep friends. I heard it several times in valley, if you want a friend, get a dog.

Simon_says 7y ago
> if you want a friend, get a dog. I have no doubt it was said by plenty of people in the Valley, but that's an old quote about D.C..
ok_coo 7y ago
I find this observation interesting because, in my own biased perspective, people are finding it more and more difficult to compromise. And maybe that's because we're not forced to compromise with people to live our lives anymore. We can surround ourselves with people who believe what we do and if we don't want to interact with anyone, we can just order stuff online. Creating and existing in our own little bubbles.
HNLurker2 7y ago
>Another one told me, that he doesn't really have a lot in common with people around him and that he considers online community where people are exactly interested in what he likes requires lot less mental overhead. You're right, but peer pressure gets to you and one need to stand for itself.

Simon_says 7y ago

> if you want a friend, get a dog. I have no doubt it was said by plenty of people in the Valley, but that's an old quote about D.C..

ok_coo 7y ago

I find this observation interesting because, in my own biased perspective, people are finding it more and more difficult to compromise. And maybe that's because we're not forced to compromise with people to live our lives anymore. We can surround ourselves with people who believe what we do and if we don't want to interact with anyone, we can just order stuff online. Creating and existing in our own little bubbles.

HNLurker2 7y ago

>Another one told me, that he doesn't really have a lot in common with people around him and that he considers online community where people are exactly interested in what he likes requires lot less mental overhead. You're right, but peer pressure gets to you and one need to stand for itself.