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Yeah, this is called emotional disregulation. I have it to some extent, but am an adult with lots of experience noticing and regulating it. One of my kids is su

Yeah, this is called emotional disregulation. I have it to some extent, but am an adult with lots of experience noticing and regulating it. One of my kids is super kind but often responds to minor annoyances with an extremely irritated tone, or will collapse into an incoherent puddle at minor obstacles. ADHD can be a huuuuge problem in relationships. Especially if you're going out with someone who would score very high on conscientiousness. They won't understand that things that are easy for them are hard for you, and will assume that you're just trying to piss them off, or are incorrigibly lazy. This is exacerbated because it's not like you can't do those things, it's just that you will inconsistently do them, and average towards not doing them.

jordanbeiber 7y ago
At the time I was going out with the mother of my to be first child, my father (a psychiatrist) gave me a preliminary test just to see where the land was, so to speak. On my partners request I should add. For fun my then partner took the test as well. My score 80% or whatever: “severe autistic traits”. WTF?! Ouch... Hers? A clean 0. Zero?! You’re kidding. Sure she’s probably the most compassionate human being I’ve ever met, but come on! Eventually we got a daughter and split up a year later. Best thing that could have happened for anyone of us, daughter included, and we have a great relationship where we hang out all the time. I believe in part this is because she doesn’t expect “normal” from me when we’re no longer together. It also gave me a wake-up call telling me I had shit to properly sort out.