This is indeed true, and I'll never fault anyone for it. Though rarely have I encountered a rejection in which I didn't feel the same way -- actually, if I hav

This is indeed true, and I'll never fault anyone for it. Though rarely have I encountered a rejection in which I didn't feel the same way -- actually, if I have a sense that something is amiss I prod around for it rather deliberately to see what sort of answers I can get out of folks. Sometimes you get the obvious red flags you were looking for, complete with obvious body language and visible frustration. Recently I quit my job and put myself out there again. One company employs headhunters and has a very well-known developer in their employ. So at the time I was pretty chuffed to line up an interview, figuring I had no risk of "slamming into the ceiling" at all. I already had two offers in front of me, but I figured it was worth pursuing. The best way I could describe the interview is if you were walking about as a child and saw an action movie hero that your admired -- and watched him punch out a six year old that happened to be in his way. Before he interviewed me the group manager asked what blogs I read, and I rifled them off with my thoughts on them. One I had mentioned that I didn't read, but that I was aware that he was attempting to make a name for himself by making more complex topics accessible to Joe average. Before the manager left he sternly warned me that if I were to mention that name in front of this individual, the interview would end immediately. The fellow himself was abrupt, intimidating, and rather smug. I've interviewed hundreds of people, so I can sympathize to an extent regarding the monotony of asking the same questions over and over, but I was able to gauge from other team members that he simply wasn't having a bad day, but that's how he is to folks outside of his circle. The recruiter had me come back in person to say that I was considered brilliant technically, but they would pass. She couldn't figure out why, so I mentioned that he gave pretty clear feedback on twitter, and it's not the first time he's done it. I pulled out my phone to prove it. The recruiter was a superbly nice person, the type that worries about and tries to take care of everyone. She was shocked to the verge of tears -- an opportunity she sells as manna from heaven, and those were the kinds of comments he'd pass on to thousands of people as opposed to delivering directly to the individual. I didn't consider his criticism harsh, as it was valid to pass on someone who wasn't a very assertive and confident Type A personality when your organization has invested decades in building up that specific culture. Not to mention it's difficult to seem eager when considering the prospect of working with an outright bully. She was upset enough that she had to leave the room, and the account manager and I spent the next hour dissecting the organization's culture. I think that's the only time I can ever really consider a rejection to not be kosher. Fortunately, the universe has a way of balancing these things out. His group is now one of my clients. I can't wait to see the look on his face when I pop into the room.